Hi, minutes ago I found some very incriminating evidence of an affair. I am a married 28 F. I have a 18 month old daughter and am 7 months pregnanat with my second. Please I need to speak to someone. Id like to chat via email, text, messanger, anything. I need help. I am so broken over this. I need to be strong for my daughter. I am a housewife who does EVERYTHING for her husband, he has no worries other than to bring home a check and this is what I get? I need to speak to someone fast. I do not want to speak to friends or family. Hoping that I can find someone to talk to and get advice.

Thank you.
Broken Hearted

Hang in there CW, there are some really good people here that are gonna chime in and help you out alot. You are in very good company here and you can feel safe. Everybody here has been through "exactly" what you're going through now. So be patient. I don't know how to post a link, but go to the "I just found out forum" and look for the thread "Advice for the betrayed". I'm pretty sure that's where it's at. It was written by another member here and it will help. I'm sorry you're here CW, but just know that we're ALL here for YOU. Please try to take care of yourself and your unborn child. I know its hard, I'm a male so I have no idea what its like in your condition on top of just finding this shit out, but just try, OK? There's lots of great folks here to help so just hold on.

Thanks friend. Im sorry I am here too. I just cant believe it....and I dont know how to begin.....

Well, first off...........VENT!!!!

What happened, what did you find, what are your feelings (which is obvious), but let it out. It helps alot to talk about it. I'm sure you don't want to even look at your husband right now, let alone talk to him. But you can talk to us, we'll help, especially if you don't want your family and friends know about it. You CANNOT keep it inside, so open up here.

I know your on a rollercoaster ride of emotions. There's nothing you can do about that except to hang on. In time IT WILL get easier, but you're right in the beginning of this and this is the worst part.....just finding out.

It sucks to be here I know, but in the situation everyone here is in.......THIS IS THE PLACE TO BE.

The people here are understanding, caring and emotionally supportive. You just can't get that from anwhere or anyone else, except from folks who have been through it themselves.
I've been here almost a year now, and the advice I got along the way, through every stage of my pain and healing was true and honest. And you'll really feel it.

Look, CW, it's not going to be easy for you, but you're among friends here, OK?

Take care of yourself!

http://www.infidelity.com/forum/advice-betrayed-t2734.html

Hey hey, I did it. Go here, CW. It will help.

Hang in there CW. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. All of us have suffered the same betrayal. I'm 8 weeks past DDay.
There are some good people here that have great advice that will help just like they helped me.

CW, my thoughts and prayers are with you. My D-Day was June 4th, so I know the pain and shock you're going through.

I'm very sorry that you have to endure this CW, you have at least found a place to get support and help. Look at the link that ILMB put there for you, then check out the "180" and stick with it. Post here whenever you need to, we are all at different stages whether just found out or longer (i'm just over a year since d-day) But you have found this site and i can tell you that I wish i had when my wife left last year. I've only been here for a couple of months and it has helped me make so much progress dealing with all of this. i have three small boys myself, so take care of your baby and your one on the way and yourself!!! Don't forget that. Eat and stay healthy and above all remember that you will get through this no matter what happens!!

First off, it helps to talk about what you know here, we may give you you a better way of confronting. Before you confront him, get a VAR, Voice Activated Recorder and cary it on you, you will want to record what he tells you for future playback. Do not panic, we know you are hurt. Do not scream or shout in front of your child. Do not disclose your sources and keep your evidence secure, you may need it later. Is there anymore you can tell us about your situation cheaterswife?