Hey,
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and have always been faithful. This is something that has been a principle of mine and will always hold steady. But I wish I could be so confident with my partner. I'm starting to notice some signs of my girlfriend of 2 years that have changed recently such as seeming occupied when we're together, lack of interest in conversations. It overall seems dull. The one the esp. bugs me is in regards to sexual protection. She has been on the pill before but went off it explaining the doctor said it's good to take a break. So we started using protection for half year. However, she started back on the pill several months back and yet still requests the use of protection explaining the effects of birth control are still not in place. I obviously respect her concerns but a part of me wonders if this is something I should worry about. Excuse me for being so blunt and some degree oblivious about how birth control works, but would the female audiences be able to give me some insight?
J

Well, I can answer your question as regards to birth control, having used various type of birth control for about 20 years.

I have never heard that it's good to "take a break" from the pill, nor has my doctor ever advised me that it is necessary. As a matter of fact, my doctor told me that with my family's history of breast cancer, I would be better off staying on the pill until hit menopause. I have currently been on the pill for the last three years - no breaks and as stated above, I don't plan on taking any.

As far as using a back up method of birth control, When you start taking the pill, you should using a back up method for the first month, or 30 days. However, if a woman starts taking the pill on the first day of her period, a back up method is not necessary. If a woman is on certain types of antibiotics, it can reduce the effectivness of the pill, so a back up method is recommended. If a woman misses more than two days of the pill, then another method is recommened until she her next cycle.

If I were you, I wouldn't try to "figure it out." Ask her straight out what's going on. Tell her your concerns, as you stated here. Tell her you are concerned about her lack of interest in conversations with you and that you want to make sure that both of you are happy and satisfied in the relationship. See what her response is. Without more information, I don't have anything else to add.

Hopefully I helped with the birth control questions, but that in of itself isn't necessarily an indicactor of anything. As far as the female perspective goes, the guys on this site are just as knowledgeable and helpful as we are.

Can't speak to the birth control thing, but what else is making you suspicious (if anything)? Any other guys recently that made you nervous (felt like competition) that seem to have dropped off the planet? Hides her phone a lot? Alternates between great sex and no sex? She's either way more bitchy, or way more nice - or both but it kind of oscillates? Stays late at work or goes in early, seems way more interested in going out with her friends than she does with you, and wants YOU to go out with YOUR friends? Picks on you [more], but tries to be nice about it - or sometimes just throws it at you?

Those were my warning signs (among others) that I missed.


If not... I hate to say it, but maybe she's just figuring out that you're not the one for her and a break up is on the horizon. That would kind of suck, but not half as bad as being cheated on. At least a break up is honest...