Confronting Infidelity

Joseph Hanoa is the founder of www.marriageadvising.com/, a website that answers questions dealing with couples help.

Sign 7: Additional Mileage On The Odometer

These signs are from The 28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse written by Anthony DeLorenzo, a nationally known private investigator, and his wife Dawn Ricci who is also a leading expert in the field. Tony has appeared on Oprah and many national shows.

Additional mileage on the odometer of a vehicle tells you if your spouse is really staying late at work or is just going to the store. You can check to see if there is any additional mileage on the vehicle.

My husband was having an affair with one of our "best friends" for 6 out of our 10 years of marriage. Her husband called and told me about the affair 2 years and 5 months ago. I'm still not over it. My husband claims he loves me and wants to make it work, but I don't believe him. He blames the affair on my depression, and that I made him feel inferior and she didn't. I am petrified of therapy. I have major anxiety attacks just thinking about seeing a therapist. I feel like I'm slipping further and further into depression. I don't see a future for myself. I have stayed in the marriage because of our three children. What do I do to improve my life? Will I ever have a life again? I will never allow myself to enter into a relationship again.

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