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Anne Bercht, the director of the Beyond Affairs Network, is co-founder, along with her husband Brian, of www.passionatelife.ca, a website dedicated to creating a healthy, passionate marriage. The Berchts are lecturers and authors of “My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me.”

It is amazing to me that there isn't one single story in this category. It seems there are hundreds of posts, stories, books, etc. about how to mend a broken relationship, forgive, forget, but none that actually attempt to share that there is life on the 'other side' even if you are like my family and were 'left behind' for another woman. After 20+ years of marriage, my stepfather left my mother for a woman the same age as me. We all missed the signs. We were devistated especially because we felt like his decisions were final and out of our control. My mother, in an incredible show of resillience found the courage to return alone to her home state. There, without bitterness or regret.....she tried things she had always wanted to do, but never dared. She traveled, started a successful RE career with what little savings she had left, and is now the woman she always felt that she could be. A shining example for her three daughters. There is life on the other side. Even though we don't speak, we all forgave him. Forgiveness if you choose it doesn't mean the other person was right, it just means you can be free. Even if you were left behind.

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