Help The Kids Adjust

Jennifer Bazner, MA, LLPC, works with individuals and families in crisis, including families racked by infidelity. She is on the staff of www.break-free-from-the-affair as well as the Fountain Hill Center for Counseling and Consultation.

Cheating Spouse Sign 20: Finding Birth Control Items

These signs are from The 28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse written by Anthony DeLorenzo, a nationally known private investigator, and his wife Dawn Ricci who is also a leading expert in the field. Tony has appeared on Oprah and other national shows.

This sign is for those couples who don't use contraceptives or haven't in years. You can't expect your spouse to admit to their infidelity—because they won't.

I recently found out that my live in boyfriend of two years was having an affair with his coworker. We had recently gotten engaged. I had a feeling that something was wrong, he was dressing better to go to work. And whenever I called him at lunch tine he will let me leave a message, then he will call me from the street saying he was at a restaurant. I notice that all of a sudden he was working late on Fridays, so one of those Fridays I sat outside his job and waited to see how late he was there till. I saw him leave at 7:00pm with a young and very attractive woman. They went for drinks and then they stopped at a local motel. When he went to the motel lobby to check in, I walked over to his car where she was sitting, I introduced myself and gave her my engagement ring, I told her to give it to my fiancé. Without another word I left. I went to a friend’s house and broke down. I sent my sister to our house to pick up my belongings, but I have not seen him. It's been 3 weeks and he never called to see how I was doing. I am having trouble dealing with the break-up. I am currently seeing a therapist.

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