Help The Kids Adjust

Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert on child development, parent-child relations, marital and family therapy, custody and access recommendations, and social work.

Sign 18: No longer interested in sex

These signs are from The 28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse written by Anthony DeLorenzo, a nationally known private investigator, and his wife Dawn Ricci who is also a leading expert in the field. Tony has appeared on Oprah and other national shows.

A couple that has had a sexual pattern, which changes drastically, is usually a sign of a cheating spouse. Your spouse might use excuses like "It's the pressure at work,"or"It's the house bills,"or demands of children,or pressure from the 2 of you arguing

I caught my wife in an affair over a year ago and gave her a second chance. I thought our marriage was better than ever during the next year. I now find out that she's had 3 affairs during that "second chance" year. I had absolutely no clue that she reverted to her old ways. All of her affairs were initiated on Internet sites. She claims that she has a disease and that she loves me and wants to keep the marriage of 15 years with two 13-year-old children intact. She was in a sex addict program while having the last affairs. I am tired of all of the lies and now feel foolish for giving her a second chance. I'm considering starting a group similar to "perverted justice" to identify cheating spouses and make it my lifelong mission.

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