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Joseph Hanoa is the founder of www.marriageadvising.com/, a website that answers questions dealing with couples help.

My husband of 36 years — can you believe it, 36 years? — has taken to texting and emailing other women. He came back from overseas last year and went straight out for a ride. I found a text message "Can I see you, I missed your great ass". When I confronted him about it he said it didn't mean anything it was just the thrill of it. He's been away to meetings and there has been indication through phone records that he has contacted this other person. There seems to be more than one. I don't have any hard evidence, can't really afford to pay big bucks on a PI. But I may have to. He says he loves me that he would never do anything to hurt our marriage, hello-he's already done it. This has been going on for almost 2 years, going back to phone records. He now deletes all messages and phone calls from his mobile. Uses work computer and never calls from home. Intercepted phone message just last night, Please ring V——. Don't know whether he did or not. There have been a lot of other things happening, too. I'm tired — contemplated ending it all — but my lifelines are my beautiful children.

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