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Joseph Hanoa is the founder of www.marriageadvising.com/, a website that answers questions dealing with couples help.

5 No No's If He's Cheating on You

Ruth Houston,author of“Is He Cheating on You?-829 Telltale Signs,”is a lifestyle & relationship writer whose articles have appeared in publications here and abroad for the past 18 years.She has been a frequent guest on Good Day New York,others nationwide.

This may be the most important article you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair. There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn’t do.

I have been married almost eight years. Five days ago, my husband told me he had 5 different sexual encounters. The last one more than a year ago. For about the past year we have been having some serious problems but I never expected this. We both had very troubled childhoods and that bonded us. We married our freshman year in college and the affairs started 2 years later. He said that he felt like he was not a child any more and it was time to start acting like an adult. He loves me and wants to be with me and promises to never let anything like this happen again. I don't want him to leave but I also don't want him to stay. I am most hurt by the fact that after all we had been through as kids, he was the only person in my life I felt loved me unconditionally and would never hurt me. I was wrong.

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