WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

Don’t bring in old fears when seeing someone new.

You’re healed. You’re confident. You know you can live on your own. But you know you’ll be more fulfilled being in a new relationship — a solid, healthy relationship, one built on mutual respect, openness and, of course, love. Infidelity.com’s New Relationship section is here to help you achieve that.

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In this section you will find:

  • How to guard against the rebound factor
  • Preparing yourself for a committed relationship
  • How to keep from falling too hard, too soon
  • Shedding the past, but keeping the lessons








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Surviving Infidelity: 148 She was 26 and he was 68.

One day last July, I found incriminating and provocative e-mails from my husband of 47 years to a young woman who used to work with him. She was 40 years younger than me. These e-mails devastated me. His response was she was only a friend. He had told her he's good for once a week, even old guys like him have needs, meet for lunch, cell phone calls from the house, never knowing he was doing this. We went on vacation and as soon as we returned sent an e-mail "it was only a week but it felt like a month, I really missed you. Who loves you baby.” Soon after still not aware of these perverse e-mails, I was hospitalized. Instead of coming right to the hospital he came home and wrote that he waited all day for her call and then left to see me. All this and more (I don't think they had sex) he said "I never touched her, I never wanted her, I didn't want to have sex with her. She was only a good friend .she was a special friend.” She was 26 and he was 68. I have been in therapy for almost a year and taking meds for depression and anxiety. I can't get over this debacle. He sent her an e-mail that he'll never e-mail again. Every thing triggers flashbacks. We are still together. There is a lack of money, or I’d be gone. I think we're both afraid after being married for so long. I will never trust him again. I try to act and live a normal life — but what is normal? Help.