Prevention

Top Private Investigator Bill Mitchell recently appeared on the Dr. Phil Show is the author of "The More You Know – Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship."

My story is similar to those that I have read here. I found out about my husband's affair the Friday after Valentine's Day. Since November of last year he started to forbid me from opening his cell phone bill. I had never been tempted to open it before. However my gut instinct told me that there was something not right about him. We have been married for almost five years. He has always had the habit of staying out one or two nights a week. Claiming he was working. He gets paid every two weeks and magically would make his checks dissapear claiming that he had bills to pay and coming home with out a cent. Since he also gambles I figured he was gambling his money. The Friday after Valentine's Day he came home to tell me that he was going to work a night shift. (He had already worked during the day) I was already upset because he was out the night before. He stood out another night. However his cell phone bill came in and I felt that was the perfect opportunity to open it preparing my self for the worse. Before I knew it I had a highlighter in my hand. Highlighting two numbers that he was calling four times a day, Bring him to a grand total of 47 calls for the month of Jan. I called and found myself talking to a 48 year old women. I'm 37. She told me how she seen him on Valentines Day. She went on to tell me that they would see each other twice a week. That she got a jacket for Christmas while I received an $18.00 bath and body cologne and our three-year-old son receiving nothing from him on Christmas. I asked him to leave to give me time to think. He refuses to do so. He claims to love me very much and that he is very sorry (for talking to her). He won't admit to sleeping with her. He claims their relationship was strictly platonic. I think about them constantly TOGETHER! I know that he is sorry! However I can't be the person that I was with him ANYMORE. I want to save my marriage. However I don't think that there is hope anymore. HELP!

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