Of course, the only person who knows if you should remarry is you. You’ve learned — through the ordeal of infidelity — to trust your heart. But you still likely still have questions and concerns. In our Remarriage section, you’ll benefit from how experts in relationships and marriage have helped others deal with the question.
I am going to help you and your family.
Jennifer Bazner, MA, LLPC, works with individuals and families in crisis, including families racked by infidelity. She is on the staff of www.break-free-from-the-affair as well as the Fountain Hill Center for Counseling and Consultation.
Dawn M. Ricci, a 20 year veteran and President of All State Investigations, Inc., is also co-author of the book “28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse.”
My typical client will open the conversation by saying something along the lines of “I can’t even believe that I am calling you.” My answer is, “I am here to help and let me ask you the questions to make it easier on you.”
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I am so deeply wounded, and my self-esteem has plummeted.
My husband, who I always thought adored me, and never would, I think, betray me, did. He developed a friendship with a female who he had worked with professionally (not the same field), and started being friends on line, the wonderful MySpace. Then they exchanged music, soon they were sneaking around meeting for lunch, playing pool, picnicking. My husband denied sexual contact or attraction. But I know it is bull, because he risked everything for this. He claims he always felt I loved him less, it is apparent it is the other way around. I am so deeply wounded, and my self-esteem has plummeted. It has been five months since it ended and I still cry, almost daily. I love my husband but I don't respect him or trust him fully and I do not know if I can ever get that back and I have been with him for seventeen years, and have three children. I do not know when the pain will end, and I do not know what the recidivism rates on infidelity are, but I could not ever go through this again. I believe it is one of the worst things anyone could ever do to someone, particularly someone they love.