Second Chance

James H. Allison, an attorney at Hill Allison & DeWeese, specializes in divorce, dissolution of marriages, child custody, general business law, nonprofit corporations, professional corporations, retirement planning and real estate matters.

Forgiveness

The Relationship Institute, www.relationship-institute.com, serves the online community and communities in southeastern Michigan, providing marriage, pre-marriage and couples counseling, relationship therapy, and couples counseling.

As you think of a hurt or resentment inside, remember that you have a choice. You can decide to be responsible for what you are feeling. Use these guidelines to resolve and release the bitterness, hurt and resentment.

I have been married almost eight years. Five days ago, my husband told me he had 5 different sexual encounters. The last one more than a year ago. For about the past year we have been having some serious problems but I never expected this. We both had very troubled childhoods and that bonded us. We married our freshman year in college and the affairs started 2 years later. He said that he felt like he was not a child any more and it was time to start acting like an adult. He loves me and wants to be with me and promises to never let anything like this happen again. I don't want him to leave but I also don't want him to stay. I am most hurt by the fact that after all we had been through as kids, he was the only person in my life I felt loved me unconditionally and would never hurt me. I was wrong.

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