Separation/Divorce

James H. Allison, an attorney at Hill Allison & DeWeese, specializes in divorce, dissolution of marriages, child custody, general business law, nonprofit corporations, professional corporations, retirement planning and real estate matters.

Cheating Spouse Sign 16: Wearing a new style of clothing

These signs are from The 28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse written by Anthony DeLorenzo, a nationally known private investigator, and his wife Dawn Ricci who is also a leading expert in the field. Tony has appeared on Oprah and other national shows.

If your spouse claims that he or she wants to feel young and single again, they will usually buy a new wardrobe. Or your spouse may suddenly claim that his or her present wardrobe is either outdated or has the basic business look.

I never thought I would be here. We were married young and had two children. We worked, owned two homes and had a lot of stress. Seven years into and bam! He is staying out, sneaking out, leaving home late at night and eventually he will move out, separate. The next day, I find out from her that they slept together. For over a year, off and on, they were having an affair. Within weeks of finding out he was having an affair, I find out I am pregnant. To say the least, I lost my mind. I was working full time and had 2 boys, 5 and 8. I was angry, cried all day and night. I would wake up at 5am and cry until 8 am. I would cry at work and scream when I saw him. I wanted to get control, I wanted to have back what we had...even though what we had needed evaluation. This year and half was hell. Emotionally and physically hell. Looking back, I needed to go thru this, all of it. I am in the best place that I could ever be. My boys, all three now are happy. He is with us, in a way we always should have been. We are renewing our vows and we moved to a new city, something we always needed and wanted to do. All the clichés are true and I hate to admit it, but it is true...time heals all. But when I felt like I was in hell, the last thing I wanted to hear or could even comprehend was anything cliché.

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