Separation/Divorce

James H. Allison, an attorney at Hill Allison & DeWeese, specializes in divorce, dissolution of marriages, child custody, general business law, nonprofit corporations, professional corporations, retirement planning and real estate matters.

Why Stay With A Spouse
Who Has Had An Affair?

Peggy Vaughan, the founder of DearPeggy.com and the Beyond Affairs Network, is a noted leader in the field of infidelity recovery. Her books include “The Monogamy Myth,” “Recovering From Affairs,” and “Beyond Affairs,” among others.

I'm NOT saying anyone "should" stay. What I AM saying is that we should respect and support each person's individual choices about significant issues in their lives—even when we disagree or fail to understand.

I found out four days before Christmas that my wife was with another man and this is the fifth time I have found out that she was cheating on me. She says she not intimate with him because he went back with his wife. My wife has told me she just wants a sexual relationship. Has caused me finical hardship and she is letting the house foreclose. Wants me to do things for her whenever and uses the kids if she doesn’t get her way. She uses the children for her way of supporting herself and the courts allow her to leave the children home by herself. I’m told their mature enough at the ages of 10,and 12.Men have very little rights when it comes to getting custody of the kids. We’re just expected to just pay support and keep visitations and put up with the emotional rollercoaster. How can the courts allow any parent have custody when they are committing adultery. What kind of morals and values is that sending to the children of tomorrow’s world? This is what I feel is the reason why babies are having babies. I feel that I was a good father and husband and became a victim of her selfishness.

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