The Good Life

Jennifer Bazner, MA, LLPC, works with individuals and families in crisis, including families racked by infidelity. She is on the staff of www.break-free-from-the-affair as well as the Fountain Hill Center for Counseling and Consultation.

I love my husband but… We’ve been married for 13 years, and I am so glad I have a loving husband who cares for me a lot. I never felt so happy in my life to have a caring and loving husband. We’ve worked together for 10 years in a company that is owned by him. He bought a beautiful house for me and financially I have no problem at all. Anything I want he will get for me. Where on earth can you find such a husband? Every year we go on holiday together. He goes to China for holiday with his mates 4-6 times a year. I have never suspected anything. Friends and relatives warn me that I shouldn't let him go so often. I have confidence and trust him all my heart. Things went wrong recently when he came back from China. After my persuading, he finally disclosed that he found another woman he loved in China. She is 25 and he is 43. He said that's the woman that he has been looking for in his life. I was terrified and devastated to hear this. I have lost the battle. He knows it's his fault and now he is going back to China again for 45 days. He said his love for me will never change even though he has the other woman. He wants to share his love with the other woman. How could I share? He wanted to spend 3 weeks in china with her and one week with me. He doesn't want me to go. Please can someone help me? I love him a lot for the past 13 years, can I share or shall I go? He said he found his happiness but he also felt happy staying with me all this time. He knew this China doll for 2 years. She's young and beautiful and she can bear him a child anytime. I can't have kid due to medical reasons. My husband loves kids. What am I supposed to do? Ever since he broke this news to me, every night he called her and chats for 2 hours while I am at home alone. He doesn't want me to feel sad so he called her from a public phone. Can anyone tell me what to do?

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