Therapy

Andrew Bicknell researches and writes about a variety of subjects, including those dealing with relationships and infidelity.

Group Treatment Can Speed Healing After Break-ups.

Dr. McGriff specializes in troubled relationships, helping resolve marital strife,infidelity, money & control issues,separation,divorce,problems with children ,and blended family dilemmas. She is trained in couple, family and individual therapy.

Group treatment helps members stop denying that something is seriously wrong.

I found out six weeks ago that my husband of almost 21 years was having an affair. He had forgotten to sign off the computer, and I happened to catch some suspicious looking subject lines in his email. What I read made me physically ill. He was seriously involved with a woman he met through our local theatre group. He had approached her. I waited two days to confront him because I did not want to be hysterical. I had to have time to sort things out in my own head. I approached the whole thing with the idea that while I was not responsible for his affair, I was not totally blameless for any problems in our relationship. He did not deny the affair. He did tell me that it had not been going on long, and that he was not in love with her. He also said I would have to believe him when he said there would be no further contact with her. There were several signs that I now know were red flags--hours and hours on the computer, a new cell phone with a password and the bill sent to his office, suddenly having to "work" on Saturday mornings, sex that would make me feel dirty afterwards. We have stayed together, and have decided to see a marriage counselor. Most of the time I feel we are on the same wavelength emotionally and physically. But, I discovered yesterday she is still contacting him via email. I do not know if he is reciprocating. So today is not a very good day.

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