Trouble/Suspicion

Anne Bercht, the director of the Beyond Affairs Network, is co-founder, along with her husband Brian, of www.passionatelife.ca, a website dedicated to creating a healthy, passionate marriage. The Berchts are lecturers and authors of “My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me.”

Cheating Spouse Sign 14: Receiving An Anonymous Phone Call

These signs are from The 28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse written by Anthony DeLorenzo, a nationally known private investigator, and his wife Dawn Ricci who is also a leading expert in the field. Tony has appeared on Oprah and many national shows.

Receiving an anonymous phone call telling you to watch your spouse more carefully is usually from a concerned person who knows of the affair. This person has feelings for you and does not want you to be the last one to know.

My husband is bipolar. During his manic state he had an affair... and maybe even before the acute mania when he was hypomanic,but I'm not sure. I am trying to be understanding because he has an illness but it's so difficult to seperate the hurt and pain from the logic. I know that this is one symptom of bipolar disorder and if I'm going to accept that my husband has this illness then I have to accept all the symptoms but I just can't get a handle on this one. I am disgusted, hurt, humiliated and sickened by it. I thought our love could weather any storm. I feel hate and love at the same time. I don't know if I can truly let this go. When he had his first episode 8 yrs ago I know for certain this did not happen but after one year he weaned himself off of his meds. This time I had to have him involuntarily put in the hospital, he refused to take his meds when he got out.

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