Trouble/Suspicion

Andrew Bicknell researches and writes about a variety of subjects, including those dealing with relationships and infidelity.

Warning Signs of Relationship Breakdown

The Relationship Institute, www.relationship-institute.com, serves the online community and communities in southeastern Michigan, providing marriage, pre-marriage and couples counseling, relationship therapy, and couples counseling.

One of the most useful recent research findings is the work which has identified the early warning signs of deterioration of an intimate relationship.

My husband was having an affair with one of our "best friends" for 6 out of our 10 years of marriage. Her husband called and told me about the affair 2 years and 5 months ago. I'm still not over it. My husband claims he loves me and wants to make it work but I don't believe him. He blames the affair on my depression. That I made him feel inferior and she didn't. I am petrified of therapy. I have major anxiety attacks just thinking about seeing a therapist. I feel like I'm slipping further and further into depression. I don't see a future for myself. I have stayed in the marriage because of our three children. What do I do to improve my life? Will I ever have a life again? I will never allow myself to enter into a relationship again?

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