Trouble/Suspicion

Anne Bercht, the director of the Beyond Affairs Network, is co-founder, along with her husband Brian, of www.passionatelife.ca, a website dedicated to creating a healthy, passionate marriage. The Berchts are lecturers and authors of “My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me.”

Best For The Child?

Herbert A. Glieberman author of more than 30 articles,chapters & books on family law has practiced divorce law exclusively since 1954.Addressing issues of pre & postnuptual agreements,divorce, alimony,child custody & support,visitation and paternity cases

Children grow best into adulthood with a maximum amount of love, affection, comfort and security, which comes not only from their parents but from their extended family as well.

My husband has a special friend that he text messages about 50 times each day. They barely ever talk on the phone, and they've seen each other 3 times in the evening, at a bar. My husband says he's entitled to this relationship because I was unfaithful to him for a few months during the first year of our marriage. I believe he pressured me into marriage. I definitely wasn't ready at the time, and consequently, I had a brief relationship with an ex-boyfriend. They haven't had sex yet (I believe him--long story!) and he says it will be over in a few weeks. It's been 2 months so far. I'm on Lexapro and now I don't care most of the time. He's as loving, romantic, and attentive as he always was, sex is still great. We've been married for 10 years and his kids and mine live with us. He says he's "going through something" and needs excitement. Midlife crisis? Says if he gives up the special friend, he'll need something else to replace it, like having a threesome. Is this the weirdest story or what?!!? I would leave him if I could live on my own financially, but we struggle just to make ends meet.

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