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Adultery and Alcoholism are the ostensible major causes of divorce. The worldwide increase in divorce is impacting children, the financial status of women, the marriage rate, and the labor force as well. Adultery and Alcoholism go together like bread and butter. When an alcoholic drinks their mind becomes different in how it feels and thinks. The alcoholic mind blurs out personal ethics and values and only cares about feeding its pleasures and desires. It’s true; alcohol makes people selfish. After a heavy night of drinking, the alcoholic becomes sober and has to deal with the consequences of their addiction. It is hard to face yourself or your partner after a night of sexual promiscuity. Alcoholics rarely take the time to use sexual protection and thus further, risk their health by exposing themselves to sexually transmitted diseases. After a drinking binge, anxiety and guilt set in and the alcoholic needs to have another drink. It is the emotional part of the addiction and psychologically that is why they drink again.

Alcohol can be a deadly and dangerous substance for an alcoholic, who frequently exhibit an addictive personality. It has ruined many relationships, families, marriages, communities and society in general. The alcoholic, when not drinking, promises their partner that they will never cheat again or repeat their behavior. They may even feel remorse for their sexual escapades afterwards and believe they can keep their promise. However, in reality they can’t. What happens is they start drinking again and lose all inhibitions and they commit adultery again, or do other immoral things they would not do had they been sober.

Once the alcoholic starts drinking there is nothing a spouse can do or say to make them stop. Sure, you can pour their bottle of booze down the sink, but what for? They will just buy more. Alcoholics are devious and conniving when it comes to getting their booze. Where there is a will for alcohol, there is a definite way to get it. You can scream, shout and nag at the alcoholic to stop drinking, but that won’t work either. What will work is to place boundaries for your self. A very sensible boundary is to let your spouse know that if they continue to cheat on the marriage, then you cannot have sex with them. You certainly don’t want to catch a sexually transmitted disease or put your health and life at risk. It is common sense that you shouldn’t have sex with a person who is cheating on you.