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Unaccountable Hours…

CASE STUDY — SUSAN

"My husband owns a deli and makes his own hours. For years, he left very early each morning to prepare for the breakfast rush. Then he liked to come home and rest for two hours before returning again at noon to oversee the lunch crowd which lasted until about 3:00 PM.

In the past several months it seems that every time I dropped by for a few min­utes to say hi during those peak hours, my husband wasn't there. When I asked the employees where he was, they would nervously tell me that he went to the bank to get change or he had to go to the post office. Sometimes, I waited almost one hour for him to return, and when he didn't I just left out of sheer embarrassment.

Also, his behavior at home has changed completely. He has become grouchy and short tempered. Our sex life is almost at a complete standstill, where it once was quite good and satisfying.

After much contemplation on my part, I hired a private investigator to observe my husband's activities. He soon found out that my husband had a girlfriend who lived just a few blocks away from the deli. He didn't even have to use his car; it was just so simple to walk over there anytime he wanted to spend time with her"

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

Unaccountable hours occur when your spouse has a lot of free time. This

is especially true with those spouses who own a business. Some spouses choose gamble, drink, or shop with their free time, and others choose to pursue having an extra-marital affair.

Usually in the beginning stages of an affair, the subject can't think of answers give the spouse as to where he or she has been or is going. The spouse may feel confused about having the affair, and fears getting caught in a lie.