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CASE STUDY - "MARION"

"I'm sick and tired of constant arguments with my husband. It seems that any­thing I say or do, just isn't right.

We've been married for eleven years, but for the past year he has created his own world and has not included me in it. He's become very secretive, and aloof. Our sex life has diminished completely. I have been noticing that my husband provokes arguments with me for no apparent reason, and then just storms out of the house.

It used to be that I would cry my eyes out and feel guilty about the argument. Or think that I had done something wrong and therefore it was all my fault. I now real­ize that it is a scheme for him to leave the house without telling me where he's going.

In the beginning, I thought that he went out driving around to cool off, or the: he went out for a beer. Now I know better—he has a girlfriend that he has been see­ing all this time."

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

Leaving home during an argument happens many times when a spouse

wants to leave the house, so the spouse can call or meet the lover. The spouse has exhausted all other excuses, and is usually very restless at home. Go with your gut feeling if you think something isn't right with your spouse's behavior.

When you make an attempt to talk with your spouse, he or she usually starts

argument, taking the offense, so that you are kept on the defense. Your natural action is to back-off due to the restlessness and accusations.

Your spouse may insist on leaving or going for a drive to calm down. You

end up thinking that you have been pushing your spouse too much, and you