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CASE STUDY - "SARAH"

"I thought that life would be extra-beautiful during my pregnancy, but I was very wrong — all we ever did was fight. I thought that my husband was feeling slight­ed, since everything revolved around "The Baby."

My husband worked as a salesman, and called me from the car. These calls were getting less frequent as the pregnancy progressed, and he worked longer hours. He said he was making extra money for when the baby arrived. In my eighth month, I had to be hospitalized due to some complications in my pregnancy. My husband would visit in the morning, and did not call me the rest of the day. Most evenings he didn't call, either. When I called our home at night he'd never answer. After several very long weeks, I gave birth to a wonderful baby girl. Everyone in the family, except for my husband, was thrilled. My husband continued with his longer work hours, and his uncaring attitude. I was angry with him, but was so busy that I had no time to worry.

One morning, my husband forgot to take his briefcase to work. I just had to look inside. I found his cellular phone bill, and recognized most of the phone numbers But one number was called almost every day at about the same time (between 4:00 and 4:30 PM). I dialed the number and got a female's voice-mail at work. I pressed "0" to the main operator, asked which extension I dialed and was told the woman's name. I asked for the company's address. That same afternoon, I hired a babysitter and drove to this company. At 5:00 PM the employees started leaving. I spotted her and followed her several blocks where she met a man. They kissed and entered a swanky restaurant. The pain and anger was almost too much to bear. That man was my husband.

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

Saying "It's your imagination" is a direct reaction and accusation from your spouse when you begin to question the fidelity in your relationship.

Telling you that this "so called affair" is in your own imagination usually takes place once your spouse has become comfortable and lazy with the regular excuses. Laziness of hiding the affair usually happens after six months or more from the beginn­ing of it. This is when the lovers make mistakes and you begin to take real close notice. The spouse makes mistakes when he or she begins to show numerous signs.

When you began to take notice of your spouse's behavior, it was only natur­al for you to confront your spouse with your suspicions. You have made your spouse cleverer to cover-up the affair. An affair cannot be hidden forever!

We understand it’s difficult for you to not say anything to your spouse, but you have to remain in control over your emotions until you get the facts.

The cheating spouse will always try to keep you off-guard, and wants to play with your emotions. You have been made to believe this affair is all your fault and in your imagination.