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Watch your husband. Pay close attention to everything he says or does. While it’s true that some telltale signs are subtle, most are easy to spot, when you know what you’re looking for.

• Look – at his appearance, notice his behavior. Observe any changes in his work habits and his daily routine.

• Listen – for uncharacteristic remarks, for things he now refuses to discuss, for names dropped, for lies or inconsistencies in what he says,

• Smell – his person, his clothing, his car for incriminating sexual odors or unfamiliar scents.

• Feel – the tension in your marriage, the emotional distance.

Don’t be so quick to dismiss your intuition. If your gut instinct tells you something is wrong, take a closer look.

Stay Alert

Don’t let a single day pass without being keenly aware of everything your husband says or does. The signs that are evident one day may be undetectable the next. Be alert to anything that appears to be a departure from his norm. Some women make a point of actively searching for telltale signs. Others feel so strongly about invasion of privacy that they only take note of readily visible telltale signs. To them, certain boundaries are not to be crossed, even for a worthy cause. If you feel uneasy about spying on your husband, do what feels comfortable to you. It helps to think of it as information gathering rather than spying. Bear in mind that sometimes the end justifies the means. The more diligently you look, the more telltale signs you’re likely to find. Some women observe telltale signs but fail to recognize them for what they are. They make no connection between what they see and what’s going on behind their back. There’s very little you’ll miss if you constantly refer to the categories in this book.