Strong Enough to Love
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process.
Our physically painful feelings let us know that something needs attending to regarding our physical body. If you put your hand on a hot stove, the burning feeling immediately tells you to remove your hand. If you didn't get the pain, you could badly your hand. So the instant pain is vitally important information for your wellbeing.
The same is true of our emotional feelings. Our emotional feelings are triggered from both external and internal experiences.
EXTERNAL - FEELINGS THAT RESULT FROM LIVING LIFE
There are many life situations that can cause both painful and happy feelings. For example, the following are some of the painful or happy feelings we have in response to life.
Sorrow - over seeing people suffer
Outrage - The Temptation of the Critical Voice
Is Your Inner Critic in Charge of Your Life?
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A regular column by Margaret B Paul, Oct 03, 2006 Not rated (click to add your own rating)
Becoming Strong Enough to Love
Each of us has an inner critic. There is no way to grow up in our society without having developed this inner critical voice - which comes from parents, teachers, peers, the media, and from our own conclusions.
The problem is that this inner critic sounds like a voice of authority when in reality it doesn't know what it is talking about. It is a voice based on beliefs that have been handed down through generations but that have no basis in fact.
How often has this voice said to you:
"You can't do it. You are inadequate."
"You are stupid and ugly."
"If he (or she) rejects you, it is because you are not okay." "You had better do it right. If you don't, everyone will know that you are a fraud." "It is NOT okay to make a mistake."
...and so on.
This inner critic speaks with such authority that it is tempting to believe what it says. Yet is knows only lies. It knows nothing of who you really are.
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