Cheating Spouse Sign 3: Excessive Use Of The Internet
These signs are from The 28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse written by Anthony DeLorenzo, a nationally known private investigator, and his wife Dawn Ricci who is also a leading expert in the field. Tony has appeared on Oprah and other national shows.
CASE STUDY - "PAM"
"My husband and I have known each other for five years; we have been married for almost three years. We operate our own business which means we need to use the Internet every day. The e-mails were never private between us. I would yell from the other office, "Honey, check if so and so's e-mail came in." He would ask for me to do the same. I never in my wildest dreams ever thought that he would cheat on me and also portray himself as somebody I didn't even know!
Over the last few months, he became very secretive when he would explore the Net. I guess I started to really notice there was something more than business going on when I would walk into his room and he would click off the screen. If I asked what he was working on, he said, "Oh, nothing important." And he was acting nervous. I waited until he was out one day and got on his computer to check for e-mail. I found out he now had alternative screen names which I know he never had. I couldn't access the password like I was able to do before, so I knew something was definitely wrong.
He would stay up all night on the Internet talking to others. One night, after I felt that I had had enough of this, I sneaked up behind him and stood close enough to see what was being typed on the screen, and could make out some of the responses back to him. He was talking with a female about his age who responded to his ad posted under "Divorced."
I confronted him and he denied any physical sexual relationship, and promised to stop. He hasn't stopped, and it seems to be getting worse, and we have now gone into marriage counseling. I hope his "addiction" can be controlled, or I don't know what my next options are.
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW
A person who is addicted to the Internet escapes into his or her own fantasy world. Mostly everyone is lying to each other, and one would figure that having the excitement of being able to talk with others anonymously from all over the world would not cause any harm. Reliving the fantasies with strangers off your computer can be quite harmful to your real life relationship.
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