To Divorce or Not
Kate Hufstetler is a life coach and curriculum designer. Her clients come from both the United States and overseas. She offers coaching services via email and phone consultations.
There are many things to consider before embarking on a divorce. Many of these concern financial and long term goal alterations. What happens with the home? With retirement funding? What about the children, their welfare, and future financial needs? Will there be complications with property, assets, taxes, and liens? Will you hire a lawyer to draw up papers and handle the negotiating, or will you do most of the work yourself? Do you have a consultant or good friend to guide you through all this?
WHEW ! Even though the above examples were financial considerations, I'm sure you agree that each subject will carry with it some form of emotional difficulty.
Today I want to focus on a separate angle of emotional consideration before the divorce is made (if possible). This affects whether or not you need and want to still divorce. It also influences your future relationships regardless with whom you connect. The subject that truly must be addressed is: Emotional Healing.
Hey ! Everybody wants a great relationship - right? Well, the more we have stored up in the way of unfinished or unspoken emotions and business - the more we are unavailable and incapable to truly connect, find satisfaction, and experience fulfillment within our connections with other people.
As you know most divorces are built on walls of negative emotions such as (years of) pain, frustration, anger, resentment, jealousy, guilt, and misunderstandings. Living with unresolved emotions like these is like knowing you have toxic waste inside your body and knowing you can clear it out -- so DO IT ! :-) There are several options for accomplishing your emotional healing: a few follow.
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