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CASE STUDY - "LOIS"

"I've been in a long term relationship with another woman. Our friends always said that we were perfect for each other. We had so much in common, but above all else we highly respected one another.

Then little by little, I noticed something strange going on. My usually adoring lover was becoming distant and argumentative for no apparent reason. I just figured her hormones were acting up, so I let it go. But, then, she purchased a beeper and would leave it on 24 hours a day. At first I thought a beeper was a great idea: it would much easier to get in touch with each other when we needed to, though I couldn't figure out why she kept it on while we were both home. When I questioned her about this, she said that the beeper was like a "new toy" and eventually the excitement would wear off

One day, the beeper went off while she was taking a shower. I heard the

so I picked it up to look at the number, but I didn't recognize it. Without thinking I grabbed a pen and wrote down the number and hid the paper before she came out of the shower. Later on she got all flustered when she realized that the beeper had gone off. She must have deleted the number hoping that I wouldn't see it, but I notice she didn't call anyone. I never mentioned it, so she must have thought that I forgot about it.

The next day I called the number and a woman answered. I pretended to be someone else looking for Pam (my girlfriend). This woman told me that she would be by later and that she could relay a message to her for me. I was so devastated. When I confronted Pam, she admitted to having an affair. She told me that she wasn't in love with me anymore but didn’t know how to tell me."

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

The personal purchase of a pager indicates a strong sign of cheating.

If your spouse's company felt it was important that he or she has a pager, they would have supplied one a long time ago.