Letting Go Is Central To Healing After A Break-up.
Dr. McGriff specializes in troubled relationships, helping resolve marital strife,infidelity, money & control issues,separation,divorce,problems with children ,and blended family dilemmas. She is trained in couple, family and individual therapy.
Letting go is the key to healing in the confused and troubled wake of a break-up. Moving on to a meaningful life and satisfying relationships depends on letting go of anger, guilt, grief and co-dependency.
Letting go is the most difficult and most crucial task in healing the self after break-up. Letting go is basically a decision to release yourself and your ex from guilt and blame, and to take responsibility for your own life and to release your ex from responsibility to you and for you. Letting go is a decision to stop the clinging, the coercing and the bargaining. Letting go is the opposite of staying stuck. Letting go pre-supposes seeing things as they are, getting past the denial, and finding the courage to put your awakening into the practice of new, healthier behaviors.
Often professional help is needed to work through the painful feeling and irrational beliefs that keep the person stuck. Many believe that they will fall apart and never be happy again, that no one else will ever accept them, that no one will take care of them, or conversely that the ex can’t make it without them. They often express profound feeling of failure and incompetence, and many feel they cannot survive if they let the ex go, that without the ex they are worthless and unlovable.
A caring professional can help the person navigate his or her transition to a new life in the present rather than dwelling in the losses of the past or fantasized pitfalls of the future.
Red Bank Psychology is located at 34 Reckless Place, Red Bank, NJ. Their phone number is 732-842-4540, you can also visit her website at http://www.redbankpsychology.com.Child Custody: While You Are Getting Divorced
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