Saving a Marriage Alone: To Stay or Let Go...That Is the Question
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Many couples ask me what the first step is in healing a marriage.
While many books and self help authors have led you to believe that you need to "do good...and then you'll feel good."
(An example of this would be establishing some sort of "touch" with your spouse to try to obtain a physical connection between the two of you. This may mean holding their hand or rubbing their back.)
In reality, there is one huge, gaping hole in this theory.
In one word...contempt.
That's right.
All couples struggling in their marriage experience contempt in one form or another. Hurtful things are said that only add to the resentment and anger already present in the marriage.
Chances are, if you were to attempt to hold your spouses' hand, they would view it as an insincere gesture.
At this point, your spouse is thinking, "too little, too late. If you wanted to hold my hand, you would've done it a long time ago. You've haven't fulfilled my needs for a long time and now it's too late."
So what is the first step you ask?
You need to "feel good FIRST...and THEN do good."
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