The Need to Know the Details
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Healing from an extramarital affair is personal, and each person must do what's right for them. Some betrayed spouses do not want to know the details. I'm not suggesting that these details should then be forced upon them. But I am saying that if a couple hopes to rebuild the marriage, the one who has had the affair must be willing to answer their hurt spouse's questions, and answer them in detail if necessary, and answer them many times if needed - they don't however need to force details upon their spouse if they aren't asking or don't want to know.
Trust (an essential ingredient for a good marriage) will be rebuilt through ongoing openness and honesty, not hiding or avoidance.
This article first appeared on http://www.beyondaffairs.com/
© 2003 Anne Bercht & Associates
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