Pay Attention-Your Feelings Are Speaking!
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The following painful feelings are just some of the feelings that we cause:
Fear - of what might happen
Anxiety
Depression, deadness
Hurt
Blaming anger
Annoyance and irritation
When we have these feelings, it is because we are thinking and behaving in ways that are not good for us. Just as the painful burning feeling from your hand on a hot stove is telling you that you are doing something that is harming you, so these painful emotional feelings are telling you that you are off track - off the mark - in your thinking and behavior.
For example, if someone judges you and you feel hurt, it is easy to believe that it is their behavior that is causing your hurt feelings. Yet most of the time, it is really your thoughts about their behavior that is hurting you - beliefs such as "I'm not good enough," or "I must have done something wrong" or "I'm no okay." If you didn't have these beliefs and you were not taking the other person's behavior personally, you wouldn't feel hurt. You might feel lonely in being with that person and helpless over his or her behavior. You might feel sorrow at being treated badly, or heartbroken if it is someone very important to you. But your feelings will not be hurt when you do not take anothers' behavior personally.
If you are feeling hurt, your hurt feelings are telling you something important. They are telling you that you are thinking in ways that are not good for you. They are telling you to pay attention and stop doing what you are doing or stop thinking what you are thinking, because you are harming yourself.
You are also the cause of the most wonderful feelings, such as:
Love
Joy
Inner Peace
These feelings are the result of thinking and behaving in ways that are in your highest good - that are in alignment with your soul.
What are our feelings telling us? Our painful existential (result-of-life) feelings are telling us that we need to comfort ourselves or reach out for comfort. Our existential positive feelings are just to enjoy for as long as they last. The painful inner feelings - the ones we are causing - are telling us to attend to our thoughts, beliefs and actions that are causing our pain so we can stop harming ourselves. Our wonderful inner feelings are telling us that we are definitely on the right track and to keep doing what we are doing and thinking what we are thinking.
Pay attention to your feelings - they have so much to tell you!
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