It really is amazing how the selfish and inconsiderate acts of others can snowball affect so many people. My SO’s three year affair has cost me my job (I am having to change jobs to make sure that I am secure in the future in case it doesn’t work out after his therapy and then ours). Therefore it affects my employers, co-workers and students. So my SO and his wonderful inconsiderate affair woman never even thought of the consequences to other people most importantly my son. I hope you two are happy with yourselves.