Posted By: I'm a Sucker on Jul. 12, 2008 at 5:17 AM

Surviving infidelity and coping with the infidelity of a cheating spouse. Learn the signs of infidelity as well as how to recognize emotional infidelity.

Has anyone been to therapy over their spouse with infedelity issues? I am at a lose with this issue and can someone else g enuinely help you with what you are feeling? Can someone help you be at ease with it or show you how to move on with the issue? I have been trying to deal with my feelings about it for 10 months now and still tore up and confused about it. I am still with my spouse but I cant seem to put forth the effort emotionally or sexually in regards to the situation. Once I thought she was the love of my life but now it isnt even close to what it was before. The worse part about it is that she has lied so much about it and still has not told me everything in which I think is the main cause of my not being able to mend and move on. With that said " is conventional therapy worth it or just a lose of money and time?"

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Yes, the counselor can help you. Whether you decide to stay or eventually go, the counseling helps to heal your wounds. There are bad counselors, just like in every other profession, but searching for he best help is important to your future emotional well being. You can usually tell in the first coupleof sessions, if you to will mesh.

Posted By Public Guest on Jul. 13, 2008 at 11:54 AM


I'm looking into counseling as well with my husband. I read that with the marriage counseling it can help get to the root of the problem on what triggered the affair within the marriage and within the person that cheated on the spouse.

Posted By starrlite77 on Jul. 17, 2008 at 9:29 AM


I've been to two different counselors so far and I'm just not getting anything out of it. I think it's worth a shot though. It really seems to work for some people. Good luck.

Posted By crh319 on Jul. 24, 2008 at 10:59 AM


Hello, my H and I just went to our second therapy session last night. I feel like we are doing pretty well. I think that is certainly partly because of the therapist but mostly because of my H opening up and sharing EVERYTHING about his affair. It was the only way I would stay.

Ive felt like the therapist understands what I am thinking before I say it and that he explains my feelings to my husband in a way that doesn't sound as "angry" or confrontational as I might.

I highly recommend it if you are both committed to it.

Posted By whatsnext on Jul. 24, 2008 at 4:02 PM


i really depends on a) the therapist and b)your emotional state. Being the offender - i was willing to be open and answer all questions. If your spouse is lying there is still a lot of denial happening. It took me a while before i realized how deep my 2nd affair had gone on the emotional side....
I do feel however that when counseling BOTH parties need to be willing and able to admit they had a part in the scenario. Unfortunately when it gets to that point my wife tells me she doesnt want to go see that counselor any more. I want to save our marriage - so i've gone to a total of 4 counselors by now. Maybe its time for individual counseling? Each of us has a core of hard feelings in our "cup" that we brought into the marriage. If we can't resolve that core then everything else is just a band-aid on a bleeding wound....

Posted By ohiobenz on Aug. 3, 2008 at 11:41 AM


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